I am back from my honeymoon and feeling so renewed and refreshed. When we got married we asked for no gifts but if people wanted to bestow us with something a donation to our honeymoon fund would be appreciated (with 3 kids between us we would never have had the spare money). Our guests were lovely and generous so we booked a fabulous 5 day, CHILD FREE break away to centreparcs, Whinfell Forest, Cumbria.
It was lush spending some time alone with my husband especially to have the chance to go away! So with Tilly packed off to spend the week with her two aunties and plethora of cousins and tuna dog off for her own holiday with grandma and Alfie dog we were good to go.
We rode along on the motorbike which was so much fun but my back nearly died carrying the worlds biggest, heaviest backpack known to mankind (my makeup was defiantly not ALL the weight, but with the war paint I need it was a fair majority) .
We stayed in 5 Lakeside Apartments. It’s was a luxury lakeside (bet you didn’t guess that one) studio apartment. It was top notch so clean and Spacious that I could live there (if we didn’t have kids that is!).
Our days were filled with food, drink and having fun.
During all of the fun I descovered that I am terrible at bowling and pool, however it also turns out my skills at pool (bowling not so much) greatly improve when I have a couple (or more) drinks.
Food was high, maybe even top of my agenda. Other than my husband food is my soulmate. If anyone is as interested in photographs of people’s food as much as I am you might enjoy a few of my photos.
The wether was glorious the whole week, I’m not outdoorsy in the slightest, I don’t do outdoor activities and the thought of it actually fills me with dread, so some would say it’s lost on me but I was there for some R&R and that’s just what I got. Went swimming twice which with the body issues I have is rather impressive, I took my glasses off to go in (I’m totally blind without them) so I couldn’t see any ones reaction (even though nobody was probably even looking!!) but in my world I was a brave girl!!
We were like kids again in the arcades, 10p machines are my rush…….I dream big lol, husband on the other hand liked the motorbike game #shocker!
I did however miss my little Mouse, we have barely been apart since the day she was born and we were surrounded by family’s It got progressively Worse as the time went on so I made it my mission to win her a smurf on the grabby machine. I was convinced they were rigged until we saw kids with some so it was GAME ON! At one point I was right on the brink and I could see a dad and his kid hovering to try and get on but hell no losers, back up smurfette was mine *insert villain laugh here.
We had a fantastic time and we laughed so much, I defiantly married someone who can make me smile.
Hello lovely people, long time no blog. I feel I have been so unmotivated as of late and I’m not the kind of blogger who fills there blog with pointless content for the craic, it’s not me. So here I am with a little evening ramble as sleep is eluding me.
I complain to myself when mouse wakes me Up at the crack of dawn every morning because when she’s awake, she’s AWAKE, I mean full-let’s put on a full musical production-awake and the day starts. I wish I could take a mousepill in the morning that helped me tap into the boundless energy source that appears to have depleted somewhere between 21-34.
Always a pretty good sleeper I now get woken maybe once a night by Tilly so she can go to the toilet but it seems it is this ungodly hour (currently 2.21am) in which my vessel decides
‘What’s that bae u want to go back to sleep? hang on I have a better idea why don’t we lay here totally unable to get comfortable and play a game of too hot too cold’
I end up being awake for a couple of hours. Don’t worry I spend said fine very wisely with tasks such as updating my Pinterest boards or liking photographs of the worlds most delicious looking food on Instagram. Today I thought I woyld spend the time blogging on the hopes that it’s some kind if release that leads to sleeptime part 2 (the remix).
My husband sleeps so soundly beside me and I’m so jealous as I know that my day is so much closer than I want it to be and it’s a super busy one with school drop offs, pickups and a spot of painting and decorating in the middle.
The light at the end of the tunnel comes next week when I finally get to go on honeymoon. Me and hubs are going for a 4 day rest session at centreparcs while my family kindly take charge of the dog and daughter. 4 days no children, which especially after the hectic school Easter holiday with all 3 kids is much earned. I plan on eating, sleeping and reading. I’m so happy I can’t remember the last time I spent fun time alone with Alex, actually I can we had one evening away in September 2014!!!!
When I get back I am starting a new chapter of my life. I am getting motivated, fit and healthy after a recent weight gain that has creeped up on me since the wedding in November. I have Been left hating the girl who stands in front of me in the mirror, I wear my skin so uncomfortably so I’m looking to change it. I plan on blogging my journey for added motivation and help from you beautiful readers.
I appreciate each and every one of you and let’s see how much of this I can remember and how much makes sense in the cold light of the morning.
It’s been a busy little week for me, all higgildy piggledy. Works been on different days to normal and as a total creature of habit it’s thrown me off my regular routine.
I have applied for 2 new jobs. I currently work at HMV on a part time basis, which I decided on when I returned to work after having mouse but as she’s getting bigger I feel it’s time to go back to work and earn a bit more money. We have been strapped for cash but it was totally worth it as I wanted to be a full time mummy but she doesn’t need me in the same way (*insert sobbing and snot bubbles here) so it’s time. I have decided to go for a position more suited to my passions so we shall see how that one pans out. Honestly after the video submission (no it’s not for Britians next top human drag race) I’ll be surprised if I hear back, that was some scary shit.
Mouse got accepted for big girl school, she’s chuffed and so am I it’s the one we wanted and the uniform is life!! Wish we could get clarkes shoes with the key in the sole to celebrate. So in September my baby is beginning the journey to become either a world leader or a unicorn, to be fair it could go either way with her.
It was Josh’s 6th birthday last Thursday, he was at his mums so they came down on Friday and we had a lovely party for him on Saturday. Love a good old tea party!!
My mum has the busiest week of her year this week as she runs Necta Sugarcraft in Newcastle. A yearly event, she co ordinates the sugarcraft arm (no pun intended) of a massive food competition that has all top chefs and sugarcrafters compeating to gain the award of Necta Sugarcrafter/chef of the year and she’s only gone and tripped up outside my house and broken her wrist. The woman’s amazing at organisation and crap at balance. I think she decided it wasn’t hard enough work and would add a new element (only jokin mum!).
Ooh alex and my wedding was featured on rock n roll brides website on April 1st totally not a joke, it made me all smiley. If you fancy a peek the links below.
First off let me wish all my mothering readers a happy Mother’s Day. A day where we get the recognition we totally deserve, well alongside doing all the other normal stuff we have to do everyday.
Mother’s Day doesn’t mean a stop for me. It’s currently 7.07am (clocks have already gone forward remember!) and my tiny human, Tilly, has already barked her orders that she wants the iPad and a drink of milk in bed, pretty sure I should be the one being ran about after!
Today I’m spending the day with some of my favourite women my mum and 2 sisters (alongside all of the respective people’s husbands/kids and dogs) and we are just having a get together and some KFC because a few weeks back we decided to have a day where we had to do nothing. I’m sure you can all appreciate that today still involves, tidying the house, getting he kids sorted and general stuff that no one day can stop but I am doing as little as is humanly possible today!
I have a card, a bottle of wine and some Tilly made cupcakes for Mother’s Day and it’s more than I need. Money’s always tight in the Fleck household but what we lack on money we more than make up for on madness, love and laughs. Mouse made me a beautiful cut out hand butterfly, which I have proudly displayed on the side of the fridge with all of the ‘picassoesque’ works of art and she brought me a daffodil back from little school on Thursday. It’s the little things that mean the world.
If you have read my blog in the past you would probably know I never really wanted children but since falling pregnant and in the subsiquent years since I have realised that this is what I was made to do.
Being a mother to me is standing by TillyMae through every up and down, temperature and temper tantrum, supporting her individuality and loving her unconditionally . I think me and her father have actually done a pretty awesome job so far, even if I do say so myself, she tells me 44,000 times a day that she loves me, that I’m beautiful and smart and gives out hugs and kisses like they are going out of favour. She’s affectionate and passionate, moody and independent, intelligent and self assured and pretty much an amazing character. I wish I had her compassion and conviction and she’s only 3 1/2 years old (going on 33!). Don’t get me wrong there have been times where I have wanted to put her out with the bins in the hopes they take her, days where I have locked myself in the bathroom and cried, where my anxiety mixed with the responsibility of keeping her alive AND well balanced have been crippling but those clouds pass and the sun comes out when I see her repeatedly dancing and singing to the opening theme tunes of her favourite shows, or she offers me her last sweety or bite of cake.
I hope you all have a great day and are treat like the queens you all are. Never forget you are amazing, you are doing the hardest job on the planet and nailing it. One day your babies will be grown and have babies of their own to pass on the skills YOU have taught them, well done you. Plus when it all goes totally tits up I find wine helps.
Signing 0ff with love and lipstick,
The topic of children having to much exposure to technology, social media and the internet is a definite modern day parenting dilemma.
When I was a young girl we weren’t rich, we didn’t have sky and in the late eighties Computers were primitive and internet dial up was slow and not Reilly available so it’s not really comparable to modern life but we played out in the street or the next street up without parental supervision. I remember getting in from school, getting changed and going straight out to knock on my mates. Mum would stand at the garden gate and shout of us when tea was ready then out again until bathtime.
A lot of the time both my generation, who are now the parents glamourise the life of playing out and even the now grandparents look back on our childhoods as ‘carefree’ but what has to be taken into consideration in a modern day setting is how much of it was carefree and how much of it was just lack of information.
I will start by saying I would never let my child play out unsupervised until she was of an age to fully comprehend the dangers. That’s just my personal opinion but I have seen kids of about 6 years old playing out at 8pm around where I live and over my dead body would that happen with mine. I think that’s just irresponsible parenting.
All of the children I know have games consoles, computers and internet access in their homes and spend a large chunk of their spare time using them. People get all upset that the ‘kids of today’ are always looking at a screen but in reality the truth is that this is just the future.
Parents should not complain about their kids spending so much time online without looking at their own actions, most adults are addicted to their phones and there capabilities. Our existence revolves around it, we talk and post photographs on social media rather than talk in person. We verify everything with google or Siri and save ourself the hassle of leaving the house to do the dreaded weekly shop with the kids by taping a few buttons while partaking in a glass of wine.
The internet is a modern day window to the world which to children it is just something that has been integral.
How long is spent on gaming consoles and iPads etc and what is exposed to your children via the internet is a completely separate issue. Everything’s great in moderation but honestly this is a generation of lazy parenting and I’m just as guilty as the next of doing this. I have dishes to wash, a child toy whirlwind to pick up or I just want 5 minutes to sit and drink a cup of tea while it’s still hot so I give Tilly the iPad and she sits and watches YouTube, for 10 minutes she is quiet, still, peaceful and doesn’t shout ‘mummy’ constantly like she’s the dictator of her own little country of one subject. I am usually around to keep an eye on what she sees but obviously we ant be around 24/7 and need to teach internet. As well as personal responsibility. There have been times where she watches annoying bratty ‘bad baby’ videos of kids just being total rats and they get switched off because it does have a negative effect on her mood and behaviour, trust me I have witnessed it.
My steppy james is 11 and he has a Xbox and a PS3 in his room that all 3 kids play on, daddy has a PS4 in the front room that that all play on . We watch movies and listen to music on other devices and phones because I’m not going to lie we love it.
The thing about social media is this, wether you like it or not, a lot of the bad stuff in the world was happening before we just have instant and easy access to the information now. We are able to connect with people we once would never have and especially when children are concerned we need to remain as vigilant about teaching them about ‘stranger danger’ online just as we would in real life.
Overall, technology goes hand in hand with modern life and if anything it’s only going to gain momentum, as parents we must get behind the movement while keeping both ourselves and our children informed of the dangers but never forget that life is for living and switching off and interacting with each other is the most important part of life.
In today’s society social media and online life is EVERYTHING, from the kids like my children who spend time on sites like YouTube to myself, who use multiple sites simultaneously up to my parents and older who use platforms such as Facebook.
I think that a presence online is a crucial part of my existence. Obviously I use WordPress for my blogging, Facebook not only to socialize with family and friends but as a way of connecting with amazing new people I normally would never of had the opportunity to connect with. I also use Instagram to keep up to date with all of the latest news snippets from my favourite brands, celebrities, friends and family. While on Twitter I hold both a personal and blog site. That’s just the forms of social media I use in a regular basis.
While online I have noticed in a increasingly alarming rate just how openly people speak to others with total disregard of feelings and 90% of the time without the facts. Theres nothing I hate more than pompous idiots who think that its ‘my way or the highway’ when it comes to opinions.
Everybody has the right to indulge themselves online with a cheeky slice outward sharing, in both words and pictures and alot of the time we share our inner most feelings especially within specific pages and groups where we feel secure. Facebook has a plethera of pages for every kind of interest where likeminded people meet and share interests from makeup and food to sheep shearing and hamster gymnastics (i made that one up but i bet it exists) basically something for everyone.
A few of the pages I’m in allow people to submit, anonymously, very private and sometimes secret matters to get an outsiders opinion, things like women asking which of two men look most like there baby, or what to do about obviously cheating spouses with such topics sparking extreme reactions people are always going to give there two cents and feel free to give it with disregard of people under the guise that ‘they asked’ when in reality they are humans and deserve to be treat like that regardless of situation.
I am part of many makeup groups and the comments i see on posted photographs are shocking, sexist and dehumanising all because a girl or boy likes the art of painting their face to feel good about themselves or just to express creativity. So you dont like the way they look for whatever reason what he hell does it matter to you? do you have to live with this person? why does it upset you to the point that comments need to be made in a vain attempt to crush someone. Unfortunatly i have noticed a massive influx of people trolling lately and being nasty and often disgusting to theres just for the sake of stirring. Faceless People are so brave behind keyboards and as largely unpoliced they are allowed to spout vile and often degrading crap without having to deal with the fallout. They don’t have to deal with the person on the other side to see the hurt in their eyes, the anger they cause, the anxiety that crippled and even in desperate and heartbreaking cases the suicide those most severely effected.
I recently read a status from a beautiful lady, who I will call ‘S’. This was a public status put up for those who are a part of the group. This is someone who i have never met in person but whos life i follow closely through social media and i know her and engage with her on a personal level along with a few from the same page. She shares her life, family, passions and struggles with others openly on her group page and really puts herself out there. ‘S’ lives on a farm and has a daugter a little younger than mine. She has bought her some baby chicks to help raise for eggs and was showing us how her daughter reacted to her new friends. The whole point behind it is to show and teach her daughter to respect animals and to watch them grow and lay eggs and how it becomes food. Basically our part in the chain of life while teaching how to care for animals. REMEMBERING ‘S’ already has chickens on her farm i thought it a smart move but one woman decided to snake all over the post. This one smartarse who i shall call ‘ShiftyV’ decided to take it upon herself to go on a one woman trolling mission against ‘S’ being condescending and bitchy trying to tell anyone how much ‘S’ was ‘exploiting animals’ how she was ‘using them for your own gain’ (well she already stated she was raising them for eggs?!) and how she was ‘not sorry for caring more about animals than your feelings’ (the whole converstaion was just an esculation of her defensivness and dickbagery). She was being a complete douche, throwing around the fact she was vegan as an excuse to be rude, disrespectful and forcing her opinions on others. She was basically going on a witchunt in an attempt to make ‘S’ feel bad, to make her feel as if she was doing something wrong, rather than just sharing that she had an opposing opinion. The whole scinario was just insane, its not like someone had randomly just bought some chicks on a whim, thrown them at her child and told her to crack on (excuse the pun). I hate when radicals use the term to bully and pressure others.
I feel many people use social media for a similar reason I write my blog, to make others feel a little less alone, a community, no matter how weird and hard our lives seem no matter the differing backgrounds and adversitys we have faced, we have twin souls all over the world. That is what social media should be used for, for unity for love and friendship. In this day and age nobody should ever be made to feel alone with a world full of people to communicate with but the human condition of competition, bitterness and jelously .
So next time you see someone trolling, stand up and say something. That could be your loved one and likewise if you know the troll personally call them out. Be better, choose better, feel self worth, inner strength and help educate those less caring. Like my mother taught me ‘if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything.